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Title: Sad Times
Post by: Del the cat on September 10, 2015, 02:27:12 pm
My Mum passed away last night, she was 92 but bright as a button, had a pacemaker and was unsteady on her legs.
(We lost my Dad last November)
We suspect her body may not have coped with a load of wasp stings she got whilst gardening a few days earlier!
But she still joked... "it took me 5 minutes to walk up the garden, but with those wasps chasin' me I came back a damn sight quicker".
Whatever it was that sent her on her way it was relatively quick and the hospital made sure she was in no pain. (admitted at 4pm... passed at 10:10 pm)
I didn't get there in time to say goodbye but my brother and Sis told her I was on the way and we'd all see her in the morning... she passed in her sleep.
Our Mums are the unsung heroes, maybe they don't show us how to mend engines and make bows... but the heal our grazed knees and broken adolescent hearts, dust us off and set us back on our way. They grand-mother our kids, and they feed and soothe us all.
Spare a thought for all our Mums who bear the pain of the world unfinchingly  :'(
Hope she's found some peace...
Del
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Post by: bubby on September 10, 2015, 02:32:52 pm
Sad indeed Del, remember the good times and i hope it softens the pain
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Post by: Aaron H on September 10, 2015, 02:44:40 pm
I'm sorry for your loss Del,  I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
Aaron
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Post by: Ed Brooks on September 10, 2015, 02:47:49 pm
Sorry for your loss Del.. Ed
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Post by: Pappy on September 10, 2015, 03:01:12 pm
So sorry to hear that Del , been there And it ant easy. Mom's are so special as you said. I am sure you will miss her greatly . You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers . Pappy
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Post by: PEARL DRUMS on September 10, 2015, 03:06:31 pm
Sorry to hear the news Del. I'm glad she was able to live such a long life. Keep your chin up my friend.
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Post by: Del the cat on September 10, 2015, 03:17:00 pm
Thanks everyone...
It will be the end of an era, the old family home will be sold :(... but I'm sure there will be a new family for it who will enjoy the Hampshire countryside...
Maybe even another kid who will discover the Yew that grows nearby :).
Life goes on.
Del
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Post by: Ranasp on September 10, 2015, 03:20:35 pm
Sorry about your loss, she sounded like quite a character.
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Post by: lebhuntfish on September 10, 2015, 03:26:54 pm
Sorry to hear that bud. My condolences to you and your family. Sounds like a good lady and she lived a long life at 92. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Patrick
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Post by: Pat B on September 10, 2015, 03:38:59 pm
Sorry for your loss, Del. My Mom passed a few years ago at 92. All 4 of her kids were with her for her last week but the morning she passed I had just gone out for a walk. Mom's know what they mean to their kids and you were in her heart when she went. She was fortunate not to have suffer long and apparently kept her wit until the end.
You and your family are in my thoughts.
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Post by: kid bow on September 10, 2015, 04:33:37 pm
I'm sorry my friend.
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Post by: JW_Halverson on September 10, 2015, 07:25:07 pm
My heart goes out to you and Mrs the Cat.  If there is anything I can do, just send me a shout.
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Post by: Badly Bent on September 10, 2015, 07:32:13 pm
My condolences to you and your family Del, sounds like you had a good deal of love for your mom.
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Post by: longbowhntr on September 10, 2015, 07:47:09 pm
Sure sorry to hear that. It it's never easy to go thru that. Cherish the memories.

God Bless you and your family.
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Post by: mullet on September 10, 2015, 07:50:08 pm
I'm very sorry, Del. When my Mother passed my sister, brothers and nieces and nephews were there. I had gone home for a few things because everything was stable and got the call when I was at the house. Remember the good things, my friend.
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Post by: Zuma on September 10, 2015, 08:15:20 pm
Sad indeed. Of course she loved you all but
she wanted to be with your dad.
I am glad you temper your sorrow with
a healthy attitude. God bless.
Zuma
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Post by: osage outlaw on September 10, 2015, 08:50:53 pm
Sorry Del.  You will be in my thoughts.  I bet she was proud of her son for going to the U.S. and surviving a week with us hillbillies.
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Post by: wizardgoat on September 10, 2015, 09:06:18 pm
Sorry to hear the news Del. Mothers are priceless, it's great you had her for so many years! Take care
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Post by: Trapper Rob on September 10, 2015, 09:41:03 pm
Prayers for you & your family.
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Post by: red hill on September 10, 2015, 10:41:43 pm
Sorry for your loss, Del. lost my daddy 30 years ago and my momma only a few years back. I still miss them both. Remember the good times a know she is with you still.
Stan
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Post by: Del the cat on September 11, 2015, 02:44:12 am
Thanks for all the kind thoughts guys.
It helps to feel we are all go through this and share the pain.
Bless you all.
Del
@JW... Thanks for your kind offer of help, immediate food parcel of home smoked salmon and venison steaks required ;)  >:D
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Post by: chamookman on September 11, 2015, 03:40:58 am
Sorry to hear of Your loss Del - thoughts and Prayers sent. Bob
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Post by: MWirwicki on September 11, 2015, 08:45:48 am
So sad to hear of the loss of you mother, Del.  Mine is still living a full, active life.  As far as I'm concerned, she's the best of the best.  I'm not quite certain how I'll handle it when she leaves this world.  Every so often, I think of that.
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Post by: Parnell on September 11, 2015, 08:50:51 am
When I lost my Pop this was something that I always found consoling...

I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
 spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
 for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
 I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
 of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

 Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone"

 Gone where?

 Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
 hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
 And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

 Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.
 And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone,"
 there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
 ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"

 And that is dying...

 Death comes in its own time, in its own way.
 Death is as unique as the individual experiencing it.

 Anonymous
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Post by: J05H on September 11, 2015, 09:20:51 am
So sorry for your loss Del. I lost my Mom just a bit less than 3 years ago when she was only 46. I still miss her a great deal, but I'm grateful for the years I had with her.  All I can say is cherish the the time you spent with your mother and the memories you made together. You have my sympathy and my condolences.  Josh
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Post by: YosemiteBen on September 11, 2015, 11:37:59 am
Prayers for you Del. My mom has been gone 17 years and I still miss her.....
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Post by: koan on September 11, 2015, 11:50:06 am
Prayers to you and yours Del..sounds like a great woman.... Brian
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Post by: JoJoDapyro on September 11, 2015, 01:26:49 pm
So many times we are sad for our loss, and not happy for the time we did have with them. I can't begin to understand the loss of a parent. My thoughts have been with you since reading this post yesterday.
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Post by: toomanyknots on September 11, 2015, 04:57:02 pm
I'm so sorry to hear that Del. 
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Post by: dylanholderman on September 11, 2015, 06:27:30 pm
sorry too hear that del :( at least she wasn't in pain when she went, my aunt passed away about two years ago after battling cancer and a infection that finally killed her. its never easy any time some one go's away.
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Post by: Fred Arnold on September 11, 2015, 07:30:40 pm
Sorry Del. My mom's 90 and still pretty sharp. She knows there's not a lot of time left but she doesn't fret it.

Doctors detected Leukemia about a year ago and they have stabilized her blood cells. Doc say's she could make it to 100 if they keep things in check.

She and I talk and she isn't in a hurry to go but she's made her peace, lived a good full life, and takes it a day at a time.

If I could remain as sharp as she is I'd take a hundred.
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Post by: TimothyR on September 12, 2015, 01:06:16 am
I'm so sorry for your lose Del.  but you are so right  mothers are the unsung heroes!
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Post by: stickbender on September 12, 2015, 02:50:56 am

My most sincere condolences, on your loss.  I know the feeling.  Be at peace, with her passing.  I've no doubt she is at peace.  Like they said, remember her, and all that she taught you.  Again, my condolences.

                                   Wayne
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Post by: Scottski on September 13, 2015, 12:27:28 am
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by: paoliguy on September 14, 2015, 01:08:57 pm
I will remember you and yours in my prayers.
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Post by: JRMakowski on September 14, 2015, 09:19:20 pm
Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
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Post by: country on September 14, 2015, 10:32:24 pm
My sympathies del... doesn't really matter how old our folks are... we're not ready to see them go. My dad said he'd only seen mom raise hell 4 times.... I guess I was one of them    ::) 
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Post by: Blaflair2 on September 17, 2015, 06:23:35 pm
Sorry for your loss del. best wishes
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Post by: Onebowonder on September 18, 2015, 02:36:34 pm
Del - I only just noticed this today.  Sorry to hear of your loss and certain pain.  Here's hoping a sense of peace and comfort in release will settle into the place your ache currently sits and give you rest from the stresses of this time of parting.  Your world will never be the same with her gone from you, ...but you will never lose the impact her life had upon yours.  Mark and keep the best moments, and let the most difficult ones hurt for a bit and then bid them move on.

With sympathy...

OneBow
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Post by: Badger on September 19, 2015, 10:09:32 am
    Sorry to hear that Del, it sounds like your mother was well loved.