As far as moisture content goes, I like to keep my wood at about 9-10% just before I start to tiller it. Too wet, and it takes a lot of set, too dry, and it becomes very brittle.
Some pics of your stave would be great, so we can see what you want to straighten. When it comes to bending wood for me, I stick to the old rule: dry heat for dry wood, moist heat for wet wood. If you're scorching your wood with dry heat, try saturating it with some veg oil before you start, and don't get your gun too hot, and keep it moving all the time.