I'm not an engineer, but this is my take on it. There is a LOT of energy stored in the limbs at full draw. When we drop the string, they expend that energy, most of it into the movement of the arrow. It is their energy that controls the arrow, not the other way around. If relative limb strength isn't balanced, the arrow nock doesn't come straight back relative to the shelf/handle during the draw, and then upon release, the opposite, or nearly so, happens and some of that energy, proportional to the degree of unbalance, is 'misdirected' and sends the arrow's nock end in a direction other than perfectly straight ahead.
If, as you contend Steve, the weight of the arrow balanced the energy of the limbs the split second the string was free, arrow flight would always be perfect, no one limb could ever be too strong, and handshock would never be increased because of it.