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Yes but to all only you want to reduce the horn by material removal before sinew backing. So everything you just said only not by heating but by scraping.. Just like a wood bow. The heating is usually for after sinew backing. Once the sinew cures, start pulling the bow on your tillering setup. At that point it will be close to tiller so a little heating of the stiffer limb will relax it to match the less stiff limb. Then you should be done tillering.
If it is a horn and sinew only bow (no wooden core) I would recommend scraping horn from the back of the bow not the belly like wood bows. The back will get sinew so establish a perfectly flat belly early on and then tiller by scraping the back. Be careful and don't pull to much on the unbacked horn. I've had them break. You can get it close this way and then lay a single layer of sinew on the back. Let it cure. Then tiller more, about 2/3 the final draw length. If it looks good add the rest of your sinew, cure, and then if needed even the tiller with heat.