Get an accurate scale and an accurate tiller tree set up. Then remove wood from the tips, until the draw weight drops by 0.1 pound.
Bending tips actually translate to very little loss in draw weight. A little bit of bend in the tips, equal little tip deflection, while a bit of bend in the handle fade gets multiplied by the limb length and translates to a lot of tip deflection. "Keeping the tips stiff" is somewhat of a subjective term. Theoretically they can never be completely stiff, they always bend some micrometers. It is also subjective where the bending limb ends and where the stiff tip starts. In general, I think the last five inches of my tips are usually tillered to be stiff. The exact dimensions are indeed based mostly on feel, something that will come with experience. You'll be amazed how narrow you CAN theoretically make the tips! But that comes at the cost of fragility. Obviously, stiff woods such as ipé should result in dimensionally smaller tips than soft woods such as Eastern red Cedar/juniper.