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I have always looked at string follow and set as two terms to described wood bent in the same direction for two different reasons. Way I see it is this...
I have a log with some beautiful reflex, 5 inches even, and its thick enough for two bows if I split it right. So I do and get a perfect split. On stave has 5 inches of reflex, the other has 5 inches deflex ( or string follow ).
Both bows are made to the same draw weight/ length. The reflex stave now has only 3 inches of reflex after unstringing, ( wow, is that a word? ) and the deflex bow has 1 inch of set to add to the original 5 inches of string follow. ( It will have very low brace height string tension and would be a great candidate for recurved tips )
That is ( in m book ( which I will put the word Bible on just for fun )) how set and string follow work. String follow is the woods fault, set is the bowyers fault. These two terms are a great way tell folks the conditions your bow was built under.
Example, The bow looks like it took a bunch of set, but it only took one inch, the stave followed the string 5 inches before I started. OR, The bow had 5 inches of deflex and lost 2 inches due to set. The terms help describe the quality of your bow.